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1. Become clear about where you are and what you need to do
Be very clear about that, clarity generates focus and focus generates energy. Instead of having a vague idea of what it is that you want to accomplish, clarity will allow you to shine a light on the goal that needs to be worked towards.
2. Set small steps to move you forward from where you are now.
You should be moving forward a little bit each week or month. Quit setting grandiose goals that are likely unachievable. These grand goals are self defeating because they are most likely unachievable in a realistic sense and these will cause feeling of defeat if they are not achieved. If you move forward just one inch this month, thats a win. If you are moving forward it is just a matter of time to achieve your goals. The better you get at moving forward, the faster you’ll move. Always set your goals based on where you are right now and make those goals realistic and practical.
3. Embrace and engage with proactive intentions with clarity and certainty of resolve.
Our brains and thinking processes are a lot more powerful than we give it credit for. When we drive our thinking with proactive intentions, when your intentional and clear about what you are doing and face life with resolve and certainty (some people call it faith), then things start happening. The most important daily choices are quality of thinking choices.
These are some great tricks to get you over that emotional hump, but probably the easiest one is to just smile. I remember my Grandfather always smiling and he seemed to be happy most of his life. I started to take this to heart and started observing others and how many people walked around with a frown and asked myself if I was doing the same thing too? In my mid 20’s I started making it a point to smile more, not a pearly white type smile, but just an upturned mouth and trying to make my eyes “Smile” as my grandfather did. I find myself doing this naturally to this day and even play a little game with myself when I drive, looking at all those frowns as people pass me.
The linked article may give you a little insight in how this works.
Feeling happy makes you smile, and feeling sad makes you frown. James wondered whether the exact opposite might also be true, namely that the way you behave can change how you feel.
Read the article 10 Clever Tricks to Trigger Positive Emotions
I think we’ve all seen this going around Facebook and its a good reminder for all of us. Looking back on my teen years, these really were the years for us to goof off, be lazy and not have to take responsibility. Sometimes I worry that we break the spirit too early to allow our children to live and have a time in their life when they don’t always have to be on task. Thats not to say that teens shouldn’t develop good study habits and work ethic and get out from in front of the TV.
“Always we hear the cry from teenagers ‘What can we do, where can we go?’…My answer is, “Go home, mow the lawn, wash the windows, learn to cook, build a raft, get a job, visit the sick, study your lessons, and after you’ve finished, read a book. Your town does not owe you recreational facilities and your parents do not owe you fun. The world does not owe you a living, you owe the world something. You owe it your time, energy and talent so that no one will be at war, in poverty or sick and lonely again.” In other words, grow up, stop being a cry baby, get out of your dream world and develop a backbone, not a wishbone. Start behaving like a responsible person. You are important and you are needed. It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. Someday is now and that somebody is you.“
As I reread this, I think that what we really need to do is change the title to “Words for Adults” This line especially makes the case for that “..grow up, stop being a cry baby, get out of your dream world and develop a backbone, not a wishbone. Start behaving like a responsible person”
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One day, you’re 17 and you’re planning for someday. And then quietly, without you ever really noticing, someday is today. And then someday is yesterday. And this is your life.