Don't Get Angry

Have you ever had a boss who flies off the handle or a parent who would yell at you when you made a mistake? Did you learn anything from them when they did this or did you find yourself not wanting to bring attention to yourself, so any mistake you made, you would try to hide it?

You need to be less critical of spouses, children, and coworkers when they make mistakes. A world-class pianist will only become that way from continually making mistakes, only then can they create beautiful music.

“Getting angry with people for making mistakes will not teach them to not make mistakes, it just teaches them to hide them.”

Watch For the Pain of Regret

Pain of Regret

When I was a boy and going through scouting, I started working my way towards becoming an Eagle Scout like my Father was. This was something that was not only important to myself but also my family. But two things prevented me from doing so; first I don’t think I had enough discipline to stick with it and secondly, I made the decision to quit scouting when some girls I like saw me in my Boy Scout uniform and started laughing. To this day I live with the regret of stopping my goal and not being strong enough to see it through. I can never get that time back and will always be reminded that I had the opportunity but did not have the temporary discipline.

“The Pain of discipline is temporary while the pain of regret is permanent.”

Don’t Hold a Grudge

Holding a grudge can be like battery acid to a relationship. The longer you keep it, the more it grows and soon the resentment because bigger than the problem that caused the grudge in the first place. I had a relative that held a grudge against her husband for over forty years because of something that she thought happened between her husband and another lady. The truth to the matter is what she thought happened, never did. Forty years were wasted as she held tight to something she made up in her head and never asked her husband about.

Partnership Not Ownership

Partnership Not Ownership

Relationships are about partnerships and not ownerships. No one has the right to control your life to a point where you lose who you are, what friends you can see and how you should think. You are an individual and likely bring many good qualities to a relationship, but nobody can “own” someone because you are in a relationship.